Listed below are many resources that can provide additional information on issues of interest to you.

Poly Friendly Therapists

San Francisco Bay Area

Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT  (888) 626-1514 (Offices in Walnut Creek & Berkeley);

Dr. Akhila Kolesar, San Francisco, (415) 480-4930. or

Ali Kimmell LCSW, Oakland, (510) 394-2492, <>,

Anna D. Hirsch, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Grateful Heart Holistic Therapy Center, Oakland, (510) 550-5140, ;

Ariana Waynes, MFT, Oakland, (510) 770-6263,

David F. Khalili, LMFT, Oakland (415) 448-6743,,

Eric Burstyn, MFT, Walnut Creek (401) 203-5999, or

Grace Walcott aka Gracie X, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, East Bay, phone: 510-459-0346, email:, website:

Haley Hewitt, LMFT,  Lafayette & Berkeley, (925) 297-5175,

Ivy Tiegel, MFTI, San Francisco, (415) 787-5489

Jana Schustack, MFT, Berkeley, (510) 594-4044, or

Jeanna Eichenbaum, LCSW, San Francisco, (415)318-9584, or

Kate Engelberg, MFT, Berkeley, (510) 516-1524,

Dr. Keely Kolmes, Psy.D, Oakland, CA 94612, (415) 501-9098, or

Dr. Larry Tonberg Edwards, Psy.D, Oakland, (510) 433-9696,

Laura Wesely, LCSW, Oakland, (510) 788-0728, 

Dr. Meg Stein,  San Francisco, (415)237-1703

Dr. Rachel Robbins, San Francisco, (415) 625-9778 or

Ron Fox, Ph'd, Berkeley, (510) 423-0645,,

Dr. Sand Chang, Oakland, (510) 545-2321, or

Dr. Sandy Peace, PsyD, Petaluma, (707) 356-9097   

Sonya Brewer, MFT, Albany, (510) 496-6010,,or

Vivek Anand, Associate MFT, Berkeley, (415) 272-6275, or

Out of Area

Alison Kilkelly, Psychotherapist, Madison, Wisconsin, 608-567-4648 Email:,

Allana Sleeth, LCSW,  Psychotherapy & Consulting, Ambridge, PA, (Pittsburgh area) (724) 318-2827, email: website:

Ari Lewis, Psychotherapist, New York City, (929) 299-6681,

Grant Gordin, MFT, Austin, TX (714) 914-9865,

Elizabeth Lipman-Stern, LCSW, New Jersey,   Outside the Box Counseling

Israel Martinez, LCSW, Certified Sex Therapist, Montclair, New Jersey, 973-866-5120,, (Author of the book Helping Gay Men Find Love: Tips for Guys on Dating and Beginning a Healthy Relationship)

Karin E. Wandrei, PhD, LCSW, Rohnert Park, CA, (707) 304-4245, or

Mandy Traut, MA, LMHC, Lynnwood, Washington (Seattle area), 425-224-6234,,

Shelley Tait, LMFT, (520) 743-1999, Tucson, Arizona

The two links above are to two very helpful articles on polyamory for mental health clinicians. Useful for a therapist who needs some educating.

Other resources: Coaching, workshops and classes for open relationships:

Bree Zimmerman, relationship coach & counselor, (415) 633-6946, Website: 

Dawn Davidson (personal and relationship coaching, workshops and events)

Douglas Taylor, Ph.D., CPC, Life Coach, Oakland, CA. (301) 642-3806;

Karen Haas, MA, Counselor and couples coaching, (707) 494-2205, Sonoma County, CA.

Marcia Baczynski (workshops, ebooks, events), or

Natali C, Certified Life Coach and Alternative Lifestyles Mentor, or .

OpenSF Conference, (videos of great workshops)

Francesca Gentille (workshops and events), or (415)990-5754

Loving More (national conferences, workshops, etc), or (303)-543-7540

Marie Thouin, "Love InSight" Dating Coach, email:, website:

Reid Mihalko (poly and sex education classes and events), or (917)-207-4554

Sexual Health Alliance: National organization that provides trainings and certifications those in the helping professions on topics related to sexuality and sex therapy

Sumati Sparks, The Open Relationship Coach,, email:, Sumati's podcast episodes:

Polyamory-Themed Podcasts

Cunning Minx', see especially “Crowdsourcing Jealousy” podcast.

Kitty Chamliss’  Uncharted Love podcast,

Dedeker, Jace, and Emily’s podcast ,

To find a therapist or couples’ counselor with expertise on open relationships:

The Poly-Friendly Professionals Directory:

Kink-Aware Professionals Network:

Polyamory Websites:

Loving More 

Loving More is an organization that publishes a magazine, holds annual conferences, and provides information and inspiration for people of all orientations who are interested in exploring healthy relationship options including group marriage, open couples, intimate networks, expanded families, and intentional community.

This blog tracks coverage of polyamory in the mainstream and not-so-mainstream media. Alan, the blogger, provides much commentary, frequent updates, and a rich archive.

Tristan Taormino's

Opening Up is a website that educates people interested in open relationships of all kinds and provides a list of professionals (psychologists, social workers, etc.) who are knowledgeable about alternative relationships.

Cat and Dragon/Open

This link is to an article called “Models of Open Relationships”  by Kathy Labriola, poly-friendly counselor.

Cat and Dragon/jealousy

This link is to one of Stef's favorite articles about jealousy, “Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships”  by Kathy Labriola. 

Human Potential Center

Bob McGarey, author of "Poly Communication Survival Kit," and classes and events,, or (Austin, TX) (512)441-8988, Pepper Mint blog and lots of great articles and info (or This is a great website with articles about different aspects of open relationships, sexuality, and related issues, all written by Dr. Slut, Ph'd, whose motto is "That's Dr. Slut to you!" See my review of their book on my website, “Creating a Line Family” a much-needed and useful addition to the poly literature, and I would encourage poly people to order it by going to their website: or contact them at Marie Thouin is a PhD candidate at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, and is doing doctoral research on a grounded theory investigation of the experience of compersion in consensually nonmonogamous couples. She has just created a website in order to connect with the community, popularize the word compersion more broadly, and disseminate a research bibliography on the topic.
For additional information, contact Marie Thouin <>

Polyamory Books and Zines:

Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, by Kathy Labriola.

The Jealousy Workbook: Insights and Techniques for Managing Open Relationships, by Kathy Labriola.

The Polyamory Break-up Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival, by Kathy Labriola

The Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy, and Secure in an Open Relationship, by Kitty Chambliss

Opening Up, by Tristan Taormino

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy, by Jessica Fern

The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory, by Dedeker Winston

KISSable Agreements, ebook by Dawn Davidson

Life in the Polycule, by Elisabeth Sheff

The Polyamorists Next Door, by Elisabeth Sheff

Green Eyed Monsters: My report on Jealousy, by Lacey Johnson.

A short zine full of personal and instructional comics, this is a deep investigation into the complex emotion. This is the culmination of an 8 month research project on jealousy.

Open Marriage: A New Lifestyle for Couples, by Nena and George O'Neill.

A contemporary classic that tackles the topics: open vs. closed marriages, jealousy, love, sex, and more! 

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities, by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt.

Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful, by Anthony Ravenscroft.

Lesbian Polyfidelity: How to Keep NonMonogamy Safe, Sane, Honest & Laughing, You Rogue! by Celeste West.

Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer, by Ryam Nearing.

Monogamy, by Adam Phillips.

 The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide, by Peter J. Benson

Polyamory the New Love Without Limits, by Dr. Deborah Anapol

Polyamory in the Twenty-First Century: Love and Intimacy with MultiplePartners, by Dr. Deborah Anapol

 Do you have Polyamory books, links, or other resources you'd recommend?