Links
Listed below are many resources that can provide additional information on issues of interest to you.
Poly Friendly Therapists
San Francisco Bay Area
Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT (888) 626-1514 (Offices in Walnut Creek & Berkeley) aaron@formingrelationships.com; www.formingrelationships.com
Dr. Akhila Kolesar, San Francisco, (415) 480-4930. stillpointSF.org or akhila.kolesar@gmail.com
Ali Kimmell LCSW, Oakland, (510) 394-2492, <alikimmelllcsw@gmail.com>, www.alikimmell.com
Anna D. Hirsch, Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Grateful Heart Holistic Therapy Center, Oakland, (510) 550-5140, anna.d.hirsch@gmail.com ; www.LiveLikeLove.com
Ariana Waynes, MFT, Oakland, (510) 770-6263, www.partnersinselfgrowth.com
David F. Khalili, LMFT, Oakland (415) 448-6743, dfkmft@gmail.com, www.davidfkhalili.com
Eric Burstyn, MFT, Walnut Creek (401) 203-5999, psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/eric-burstyn-walnut-creek-ca/771867 or eric@burstyntherapy.com
Grace Walcott aka Gracie X, Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, East Bay, phone: 510-459-0346, email: GraceWalcottauthor@gmail.com, website: www.GraceWalcott.com.
Haley Hewitt, LMFT, Lafayette & Berkeley, (925) 297-5175 haley@counselinginlafayette.com, www.lamorindacounseling.com
Ivy Tiegel, MFTI, San Francisco, (415) 787-5489 http://therapywithivy.com/
Jana Schustack, MFT, Berkeley, (510) 594-4044, www.anamcaratherapycenter.com or jana.mft@gmail.com
Jeanna Eichenbaum, LCSW, San Francisco, (415)318-9584, goldengatecounseling.com or jeannamind@yahoo.com
Kate Engelberg, MFT, Berkeley, (510) 516-1524, www.kathleenengelberg.wordpress.com
Dr. Keely Kolmes, Psy.D, Oakland, CA 94612, (415) 501-9098, http://drkkolmes.com or drkkolmes@gmail.com
Dr. Larry Tonberg Edwards, Psy.D, Oakland, (510) 433-9696, ltonberg@aol.com
Laura Wesely, LCSW, Oakland, (510) 788-0728, LauraWeselyLCSW.com
Dr. Meg Stein, San Francisco, (415)237-1703 www.drmegstein.com
Dr. Rachel Robbins, San Francisco, (415) 625-9778 drrachelrobbins.com or rachel@drrachelrobbins.com
Ron Fox, Ph'd, Berkeley, (510) 423-0645, info@ronfoxphd.com,
www.ronfoxphd.com
Dr. Sand Chang, Oakland, (510) 545-2321, sandchang.com or drsandchang@gmail.com
Dr. Sandy Peace, PsyD, Petaluma, (707) 356-9097 drsandypeace@gmail.com
Sonya Brewer, MFT, Albany, (510) 496-6010, sonya@sonyabrewer.com,or www.sonyabrewer.com
Vivek Anand, Associate MFT, Berkeley, (415) 272-6275, vivek.raj.anand@gmail.com or www.vivekrajanand.weebly.com
Out of Area
Alison Kilkelly, Psychotherapist, Madison, Wisconsin, 608-567-4648 Email: AKCounselingMadison@gmail.com, www.AKCounselingMadison.com
Allana Sleeth, LCSW, Psychotherapy & Consulting, Ambridge, PA, (Pittsburgh area) (724) 318-2827, email: info.sleethlcsw@gmail.com website: http://www.allanasleeth.com
Ari Lewis, Psychotherapist, New York City, (929) 299-6681, ari@satproject.com
Grant Gordin, MFT, Austin, TX (714) 914-9865, www.grantgordin.com
Elizabeth Lipman-Stern, LCSW, New Jersey, Outside the Box Counseling
Israel Martinez, LCSW, Certified Sex Therapist, Montclair, New Jersey, 973-866-5120, israel@martinezlcsw.com, www.LGBTtherapyNJ.com (Author of the book Helping Gay Men Find Love: Tips for Guys on Dating and Beginning a Healthy Relationship)
Karin E. Wandrei, PhD, LCSW, Rohnert Park, CA, (707) 304-4245, kwandrei@gmail.com or www.karinwandrei.com
Mandy Traut, MA, LMHC, Lynnwood, Washington (Seattle area), 425-224-6234, mandy@newconnectionscounseling.com, www.newconnectionscounseling.com
Shelley Tait, LMFT, (520) 743-1999, Tucson, Arizona
http://www.ejhs.org/volume5/polyoutline.html
http://www.polyamory.org/~joe/polypaper.htm#Demographic
The two links above are to two very helpful articles on polyamory for mental health clinicians. Useful for a therapist who needs some educating.
Other resources: Coaching, workshops and classes for open relationships:
Bree Zimmerman, relationship coach & counselor, (415) 633-6946, breezimmerman.ma@gmail.com Website: www.BreeZimmerman.com
Dawn Davidson (personal and relationship coaching, workshops and events) www.loveoutsidethebox.com
Douglas Taylor, Ph.D., CPC, Life Coach, Oakland, CA. (301) 642-3806; detaylor.phd@gmail.com
Karen Haas, MA, Counselor and couples coaching, (707) 494-2205, Sonoma County, CA.
Marcia Baczynski (workshops, ebooks, events), www.askingforwhatyourwant.com or www.successfulnonmonogamy.com
Natali C, Certified Life Coach and Alternative Lifestyles Mentor, info@mysoulrenity.com or www.mysoulrenity.com .
OpenSF Conference, (videos of great workshops) www.open-sf.org
Francesca Gentille (workshops and events) www.lifedancecenter.com, or (415)990-5754
Loving More (national conferences, workshops, etc), www.lovemore.com or (303)-543-7540
Marie Thouin, "Love InSight" Dating Coach, email: mariethouin@gmail.com, website: http://www.LoveInSight-Dating.com.
Reid Mihalko (poly and sex education classes and events), wwwReidAboutSex.com or (917)-207-4554
Sexual Health Alliance: https://sexualhealthalliance.com/ National organization that provides trainings and certifications those in the helping professions on topics related to sexuality and sex therapy
Sumati Sparks, The Open Relationship Coach, www.SumatiSparks.com, email: Sumati@SumatiSparks.com, Sumati's podcast episodes: http://sumatisparks.com/radio
Polyamory-Themed Podcasts
Cunning Minx' www.polyweekly.com, see especially “Crowdsourcing Jealousy” podcast.
Kitty Chamliss’ Uncharted Love podcast, www.lovingwithouboundaries.com.
Dedeker, Jace, and Emily’s podcast , www.multiamory.com.
To find a therapist or couples’ counselor with expertise on open relationships:
The Poly-Friendly Professionals Directory: www.polychromatic.com/pfp
Kink-Aware Professionals Network: www.kinkawareprofessionals.org
Polyamory Websites:
Loving More is an organization that publishes a magazine, holds annual conferences, and provides information and inspiration for people of all orientations who are interested in exploring healthy relationship options including group marriage, open couples, intimate networks, expanded families, and intentional community.
Polyinthemedia.blogspot.com
This blog tracks coverage of polyamory in the mainstream and not-so-mainstream media. Alan, the blogger, provides much commentary, frequent updates, and a rich archive.
Tristan Taormino's www.openingup.com
Opening Up is a website that educates people interested in open relationships of all kinds and provides a list of professionals (psychologists, social workers, etc.) who are knowledgeable about alternative relationships.
This link is to an article called “Models of Open Relationships” by Kathy Labriola, poly-friendly counselor.
This link is to one of Stef's favorite articles about jealousy, “Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships” by Kathy Labriola.
Bob McGarey, author of "Poly Communication Survival Kit," and classes and events, www.HumanPotentialCenter.org/poly, or bob@humanpotentialcenter.org (Austin, TX) (512)441-8988
www.freaksexual.com, Pepper Mint blog and lots of great articles and info (or pepomint@gmail.com)
slutphd.com/2014/03/19/251/ This is a great website with articles about different aspects of open relationships, sexuality, and related issues, all written by Dr. Slut, Ph'd, whose motto is "That's Dr. Slut to you!"
Line-family.info See my review of their book on my website, “Creating a Line Family” a much-needed and useful addition to the poly literature, and I would encourage poly people to order it by going to their website: or contact them at director@line-family.info.
WhatIsCompersion.com Marie Thouin is a PhD candidate at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, and is doing doctoral research on a grounded theory investigation of the experience of compersion in consensually nonmonogamous couples. She has just created a website in order to connect with the community, popularize the word compersion more broadly, and disseminate a research bibliography on the topic.
For additional information, contact Marie Thouin <mariethouin@gmail.com>
Polyamory Books and Zines:
Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, by Kathy Labriola.
The Jealousy Workbook: Insights and Techniques for Managing Open Relationships, by Kathy Labriola.
The Polyamory Break-up Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival, by Kathy Labriola
The Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy, and Secure in an Open Relationship, by Kitty Chambliss
Opening Up, by Tristan Taormino
Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy, by Jessica Fern
The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory, by Dedeker Winston
KISSable Agreements, ebook by Dawn Davidson
Life in the Polycule, by Elisabeth Sheff
The Polyamorists Next Door, by Elisabeth Sheff
Green Eyed Monsters: My report on Jealousy, by Lacey Johnson.
A short zine full of personal and instructional comics, this is a deep investigation into the complex emotion. This is the culmination of an 8 month research project on jealousy.
Open Marriage: A New Lifestyle for Couples, by Nena and George O'Neill.
A contemporary classic that tackles the topics: open vs. closed marriages, jealousy, love, sex, and more!
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities, by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt.
Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful, by Anthony Ravenscroft.
Lesbian Polyfidelity: How to Keep NonMonogamy Safe, Sane, Honest & Laughing, You Rogue! by Celeste West.
Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer, by Ryam Nearing.
Monogamy, by Adam Phillips.
The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide, by Peter J. Benson.
Polyamory the New Love Without Limits, by Dr. Deborah Anapol
Polyamory in the Twenty-First Century: Love and Intimacy with MultiplePartners, by Dr. Deborah Anapol
Do you have Polyamory books, links, or other resources you'd recommend?