Listed below are many resources that can provide additional information on issues of interest to you.
Poly Friendly Therapists

San Francisco Bay Area

Aaron J. Feldman, LMFT  (888)626-1514 (Offices in Walnut Creek & Berkeley);

Dr. Akhila Kolesar, San Francisco, (415)480-4930. or

Alexandra Korunskaya, LCSW, SF and Berkeley, (415)672-0185,, or

Ali Kimmell LCSW, Oakland, 510-394-2492, <>,

Anna D. Hirsch,
Registered Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Grateful Heart Holistic Therapy Center, Oakland, 510-550-5140, ;
Ariana Waynes
, MFT, Oakland:(510)770-6263,

Claire Jeannette, MFT, Berkeley, (5110)843-6971, or

Crista Underwood, LCSW, San Francisco,

David F. Khalili, LMFT, Oakland 415-448-6743,,
Grant Gordin, MFTI, Berkeley, (714)914-9865,
Haley Hewitt, LMFT,  Lafayette & Berkeley, (925) 297-5175,

Ivy Tiegel, MFTI, San Francisco, (415)787-5489

Jana Schustack, MFT, Berkeley, (510)594-4044, or

Jeanna Eichenbaum, LCSW, San Francisco, (415)318-9584, or

Kate Engelberg, MFT, Berkeley, (510)516-1524,

Dr. Keely Kolmes, Psy.D, Oakland, CA 94612, (415)501-9098, or

Dr. Larry Tonberg Edwards, Psy.D, Oakland, (510)433-9696,

Dr. Meg Stein,  San Francisco, (415)237-1703

Nisi Baier, MFT, Berkeley, (510)333-9554 or  

Orit Weksler, MFT, Berkeley, 510-356-2783 or 

Dr. Rachel Robbins, San Francisco, (415)625-9778 or
Ron Fox, Ph'd, Berkeley, (510)423-0645,,

Dr. Sand Chang, Oakland, 510-545-2321, or

Sonya Brewer, MFT, Albany (510)496-6010,,or
Valerie Igl MFT and Jeanne Courtney MFT, El Cerrito and San Francisco offices, (510)527-5662, or or
Vivek Anand, Associate MFT, Berkeley(415)272-6275, or

Zosie Calame, MFT, Oakland, 510-628-0877,,

Out of Area

Alison Kilkelly, Psychotherapist, Madison, Wisconsin, 608-567-4648 Email:,
Allana Sleeth, LCSW,  Psychotherapy & Consulting, Ambridge, PA, 724.318.2827, website:

Elizabeth Lipman-Stern, LCSW, New Jersey,   Outside the Box Counseling

Israel Martinez, LCSW, Certified Sex Therapist, Montclair, New Jersey, 973-866-5120,, (Author of the book Helping Gay Men Find Love: Tips for Guys on Dating and Beginning a Healthy Relationship)

Karin E. Wandrei, PhD, LCSW, Rohnert Park, CA, 707-304-4245, or

Mandy Traut, MA, LMHC, Lynnwood, Washington (Seattle area), 425-224-6234,,

Shelley Tait, LMFT, 520-975-6425, Tucson, Arizona
The two links above are to two very helpful articles on polyamory for mental health clinicians. Useful for a therapist who needs some educating.

Other resources: Coaching, workshops and classes for open relationships:

Cat Maness, MFT, (510)859-3880, or

Cunning Minx' weekly poly podcasts, at, see especially “Crowdsourcing Jealousy” podcast.

Douglas Taylor, Ph.D., CPC, Life Coach, Oakland, CA. (301) 642-3806;
Karen Haas, MA, Counselor and couples coaching, (707)494-2205, Sonoma County, CA. 

Marcia Baczynski (workshops, ebooks, events), or

Natali C, Certified Life Coach and Alternative Lifestyles Mentor, or .


Dawn Davidson (personal and relationship coaching, workshops and events)

Francesca Gentille (workshops and events), or (415)990-5754

Loving More (national conferences, workshops, etc), or (303)-543-7540

Marie Thouin, "Love InSight" Dating Coach, email:, website:

Pepper Mint and Jen Day, (workshops, parties, social events), or

Reid Mihalko (classes and events), or (917)-207-4554

Sexual Health Alliance: National organization that provides trainings and certifications those in the helping professions on topics related to sexuality and sex therapy

Sumati Sparks, The Open Relationship Coach,, email:, Sumati's podcast episodes:

Terry Brussel (hypnosis audio downloads on jealousy, trainings and classes),, or 800-462-5669

Wendy-O Matik (workshops, classes, and books), www.wendvomatic.comWorld Polyamory Association,, or (808) 244-4103

To find a therapist or couples’ counselor with expertise on open relationships:

The Poly-Friendly Professionals Directory:

Kink-Aware Professionals

Polyamory Websites:

Loving More 
Loving More is an organization that publishes a magazine, holds annual conferences, and provides information and inspiration for people of all orientations who are interested in exploring healthy relationship options including group marriage, open couples, intimate networks, expanded families, and intentional community.

This is the website for the list alt.polyamory. It has links to many other poly sites, and to over a dozen poly-related discussion lists.

Alternatives to Marriage Project
On the menu on the left side of the home page, scroll down to the section on “Ways to be Unmarried,” and click on Polyamory in that section. There is a list of websites and books about polyamory, and a brief review of Love in Abundance.

Open Fidelity
Open Fidelity is a website and blog about non-monogamous relationships. The creator, Ann Sharman, writes various articles about the subject and how to remain faithful while polyamorous. 

Polyamorous Percolations
This blog tracks coverage of polyamory in the mainstream and not-so-mainstream media. Alan, the blogger, provides much commentary, frequent updates, and a rich archive.

Polyamory? What, like, two girlfriends?
Great poly relationship advice for both beginners and the advanced. Widely recommended.

Tristan Taormino's Opening Up
Opening Up is a website that educates people interested in open relationships of all kinds and provides a list of professionals (psychologists, social workers, etc.) who are knowledgeable about alternative relationships.

Expansive Loving
Expansive Loving is an internationally serving on-line group for those wishing to explore polyamory from a spiritual, "sex-positive," and/or personal growth perspective. It also serves those interested in supporting and exploring unconventional relationship dynamics. Expansive Loving has a companion group by the same name on Facebook.

Legal and Financial Issues
Whether you're living with one partner or many, whether your partnership is same-sex or different-sex, one day you'll have questions. We help you find answers.

Cat and Dragon/Open
This link is to an article called “Models of Open Relationships”  by Kathy Labriola, poly-friendly counselor.
Cat and Dragon/jealousy
This link is to one of Stef's favorite articles about jealousy,  “Managing Jealousy in Open Relationships”  by Kathy Labriola. 

Radical Love workshops
taught by Wendy-O-Matik, author of "Redefining our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships."

Human Potential Center
Bob McGarey, author of "Poly Communication Survival Kit," and classes and events,, or (Austin, TX)

Institute for 21st Century Relationships
Anita Wagner, (703)561-8136, conferences, classes, educational materials,, or (Hernedon Virginia, Washington, DC area)  a clearinghouse for information on open relationships This is a great website with articles about different aspects of open relationships, sexuality, and related issues,
all written by Dr. Slut, Ph'd, whose motto is "That's Dr. Slut to you!" Website highlights their book, “Creating a Line Family” a much-needed and useful addition to the poly literature, and I would encourage poly people to order it by going to their website: or contact them at
Marie Thouin is a PhD candidate at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco, and is doing doctoral research on a grounded theory
investigation of the experience of compersion in
consensually nonmonogamous couples. She has just created a website in order to connect with the community, popularize the word
compersion more broadly, and disseminate a research bibliography on the topic.
For additional information, contact Marie Thouin <>

Polyamory Books and Zines :

Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, by Kathy Labriola.
A guide for couples, individuals, and families that are either already involved in a polyamorous relationship or who are considering this type of relationship.

The Jealousy Workbook: Insights and Techniques for Managing Open Relationships, by Kathy Labriola.

Green Eyed Monsters: My report on Jealousy, by Lacey Johnson.
A short zine full of personal and instructional comics, this is a deep investigation into the complex emotion. This is the culmination of an 8 month research project on jealousy.

Open Marriage: A New Lifestyle for Couples, by Nena and George O'Neill.
A contemporary classic that tackles the topics: open vs. closed marriages, jealousy, love, sex, and more! 

The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities, by Dossie Easton and Catherine Liszt.
A how-to guide about negotiating honest non-monogamy, non-traditional relationships, and non-traditional sex.

Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless and Hopeful, by Anthony Ravenscroft.
A straight-forward, basic yet intricate introduction to polyamory. The author is very thorough and impartial, addressing both the advantages and disadvantages of living a poly lifestyle.

Lesbian Polyfidelity: How to Keep NonMonogamy Safe, Sane, Honest & Laughing, You Rogueby Celeste West.
This was the first book (now there's another one) about honest non-monogamy written specifically for lesbians.

Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer, by Ryam Nearing.
Written by one of the founders of Loving More, this how to manual and reference book is for those who wish to move beyond monogamy in a responsible, ethical, and loving way.

Monogamy, by Adam Phillips. Phillips' book, a collection of short meditations about the concept of monogamy, raises more questions than it answers -- but we think that's his point.

The Polyamory Handbook: A User's Guide, by Peter J. BensonA book that helps clarify what polyamory is and how to engage in healthy polyamorous relationships. The handbook is a great primer for those who are not as familiar with the subject. 

Polyamory the New Love Without Limits, by Dr. Deborah Anapol (1997). This introduction to polyamory includes sections on ethics, how to tell if polyamory is right for you, skills for successfully managing polyamorous relationships, jealousy, and managing the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy.

Polyamory in the Twenty-First Century: Love and Intimacy with Multiple Partners
, by Dr. Deborah Anapol

Do you have Polyamory books, links, or other resources you'd recommend?  Let us know so we can add them to this collection!

Magazine and Academic Journal Articles on Open Relationships

Aviram, Hadar. (2008). Make Love, Not Law: Perceptions of the Marriage Equality Struggle Among Polyamorous Activists, Journal of Bisexuality, 7, 261 - 287.
Barker, Meg, Heckert, J., and Wilkinson, E. (2013) “From One Love to Many Loves and Back Again”. Intimacies: Relations, Exchanges, Affects. Basingstoke: Palgrave Macmillan. 148-160.
Barker, M. and Langdridge, D. (2010). “Whatever happened to Non-monogamies?” Critical Reflections on Recent Research and Theory. Sexualities, 13(6), 748-772.
Barker, Meg and Ritchie A. (2007). “Hot Bi Babes and Feminist Families: Polyamorous Women Speak Out”. Lesbian & Gay Psychology Review, 8(2), 141–151.
Barker, Meg. (2004). “This is My Partner, and This is My Partner’s Partner: Constructing a Polyamorous Identity in a Monogamous World”. Journal of Constructivist Psychology 18: 75 – 88.
Emens, Elizabeth F. (2004). “Monogamy’s Law: Compulsory Monogamy and Polyamorous Existence”. New York University Review of Law and Social Change. (29).
George, Robert P. (2006). “Gay Marriage, Democracy, and the Courts”. The Wall Street Journal. U.S. Accessed on 5February, 2014.
Haritaworn, J., Lin, C.J., and Klesse, C. (2006) “Poly/Logue. A Critical Introduction to PolyamorySexualities, 9 (5), 515-529.
Klesse, Christian. (2006) “Polyamory and its ‘Others’: Contesting the Terms of Non-monogamy”, Sexualities, 9 (5), 565-583.
Klesse, Christian. (2014) “Polyamory: Intimate Practice, Identity, or Sexual Orientation?Sexualities, 17 (1/2) 81-99.
Lesher, Elizabeth C. (2013) “Protecting Poly: Applying the Fourteenth Amendment to the Nonmonogamous”. Tulane Journal of Law & Sexuality, 22. 127-145.
Oppenheimer, Mark. (2011). “Married, With Infidelities”, The New York Times. Retrieved 3 February, 2014 from //
Ritchie, A. and Barker, M. (2006). “There Aren't Words For What We Do Or How We Feel So We Have To Make Them Up": Constructing Polyamorous Languages in a Culture of Compulsory Monogamy”. Sexualities, 9(5), 584–601.
Rule, Doug. (2013). “Savage IntentMetro Weekly. Retrieved 5 February, 2014 from
Shannon, Deric and Willis, Abbey. (2010). “Theoretical Polyamory: Some Thoughts on Loving, Thinking, and Queering Anarchism”. Sexualities, 13(4) 433 – 443.
Sheff, Elisabeth. (2011). “Polyamorous Families, Same-Sex Marriage, and the Slippery Slope”. Journal of Ethnography, 40 (5): 487 – 520.
Stryker, Susan (2008). “Transgender History, Homonormativity, and Disciplinarity”. Radical History Review, 100, 145-157.The Polyamory Society. Accessed on 5 March, 2014. Weitzman, Geri, Davidson, J., and Phillips, R.A. (2012) “What Psychology Professionals Should Know About Polyamory”. Baltimore: National Coalition for Sexual Freedom. Wilkinson, Eleanor. (2010) “Equalize Love! Intimate Citizenship Beyond MarriageGEXcel Work in Progress Report (5): Proceedings from GEXcel Theme 10: Love in Our Time – a Question for Feminism. Tema Genus Report Series.

Bisexuality I have found “Jennifer’s Bisexuality Resource Page”  to be one of the most comprehensive resource sites on bisexuality. The Bixexual Foundation is non-profit. The site offers casual resources for bisexuals including online personal ads,; chat rooms, contests, and notices of conferences and events. This organization works to stop bi-phobia/bi-invisibility.

Transgender and Transsexual Transparentcy gives support and resource to trans-sexual parents and their children and has a link for transsexual young people.
These two sites have a lot of good information of many sorts. “A gender journey with my past husband and my present wife”  is how Diane Daniels subtitles her site.  A wonderful resource and heartwarming true telling of their transition journey.

BDSM/Kink   TES (The Eulenspiegel Society) is one of the world’s oldest and largest social and educational organizations for BDSM,  located in New York. The site includes many links to other organizations.  This is an international, multilingual comprehensive resource.  This is a social networking site for the BDSM and Fetish communities.

Sexual Freedom  The Institute for Twenty-First Century Relationships along with its political arm,the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom,  exist to support the freedom of consenting adults to discover intimate relationship structures which best fulfill their needs and potentials. This site provides details of upcoming events and links to books on topics such as polyamory, polygamy, swinging, power-based relationships, bisexuality, trans-gender issues and more.  The World Policy Institute’s Project for Global Democracy and Human Rights provides the first comprehensive country-by-country report on rights of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered persons in the Americas.  The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a nationwide advocacy coalition whose purposes include educating law enforcement,health care and psychiatric professionals as well as a media advocacy and training  to expand the world’s concept of normal, acceptable sexual practices among consenting adults.

Sexuality  Sheri Winston,  CNM,RN,BSN,LMT,  is a treasure trove of knowledge about sexuality.